Ask the Psychologist: Online Clinical Psychologist

I’m Scared of Getting Sick Again

Dr Misty Hook, PhD — Fri, 18 May 2012 12:43:11 +0000

Q: I am scared of being ill. Two years ago I suffered from Chlamydia pneumoniae and I spent six weeks at home. At that time I was attending high school, so my absence at school was not a big problem. According to a doctor I was healed properly and it was recommended that I have [...]

Tags: anxiety and stress, CBT

I’m 19 and Never Had a Girlfriend

Dr Misty Hook, PhD — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:31:02 +0000

Q: I am having a hard time in my life. I am 19 years old and going to university. My problem is fear. I have never had a girlfriend and, because of my age, I am already afraid to commit myself. I am afraid that I would not be a good kisser or lover. I [...]

Tags: love, relationships, sexuality, social skills

I Fear That I Sexually Abused Someone

Dr Shailagh Clarke, PhD — Wed, 16 May 2012 12:46:06 +0000

Q: I am an openly gay male in my early twenties, and have been struggling with a regret for quite some time now. When I was a teenager, I babysat several children. When I babysat, I used to play games with the children where they would sit on my head or my hands, which they [...]

Tags: abuse and trauma, boundaries, OCD, responsibility, self awareness, sexuality

I Move My Fingers, Nose and Eyebrows a Lot; Do I Have OCD or ADD?

Dr Misty Hook, PhD — Tue, 15 May 2012 12:14:22 +0000

Q: I am a 19-year-old girl from California and I am not sure if I have OCD, ADD or both, or if I am just overreacting. I have hypermobility in my fingers and thumbs and I always do that with my fingers and thumbs, most of the time without realizing it. I also have a [...]

Tags: ADHD, anxiety and stress, OCD, self awareness

He’s 45; She’s 20 — Is That Wrong?

Dr Misty Hook, PhD — Mon, 14 May 2012 12:13:13 +0000

Q: I have a concern for a friend of mine. He is 45 years old and is starting a relationship with a 20-year-old woman. I keep telling him this is wrong. My therapist says it is wrong. His therapist tells him to “be careful” and “take your time.” He tells me that he feels it’s [...]

Tags: love, relationships

He’s Bisexual; Does That Affect His Behavior?

Dr Misty Hook, PhD — Fri, 11 May 2012 12:21:46 +0000

Q: I’m very confused and I just want to understand a little more. I started dating a guy and he was everything I needed at that point in time. Eventually we moved in together and I realized that he’s not acting like a man. He can’t handle stress well, he does not take responsibility, and [...]

Tags: relationships, responsibility, sexuality

I Want to Raise Our Children Together

Dr Shailagh Clarke, PhD — Thu, 10 May 2012 12:31:51 +0000

Q: My boyfriend and I have a 19-month-old boy and soon we’ll be having a little girl. He says I changed after I had my son. I did, but mostly for the better, except that I became really insecure and I developed major trust issues — but he gave me reason for that. I know [...]

Tags: parenting and children, relationships, responsibility

Why Am I So Sensitive?

Dr Misty Hook, PhD — Wed, 09 May 2012 11:32:51 +0000

Q: Why am I so sensitive? I take comments so seriously. If I don’t like someone, their comments don’t matter at all, but when I start seeing someone as a friend, even the smallest negative thing they say about me hurts me, even if I know they are joking. I am really tired and feel [...]

Tags: relationships, self-esteem

Dating During Divorce

Dr Shailagh Clarke, PhD — Tue, 08 May 2012 11:29:37 +0000

Q: I was attacked by my family last night when I voiced my concern for my sister, who is going through separation and divorce proceedings, and has already begun a new relationship. She was married for about 13 years. Although I support her decision to divorce, I am struggling with her decision to engage in [...]

Tags: divorce, parenting and children, relationships, responsibility

I Get Trapped in My Own Deceit

Dr Misty Hook, PhD — Mon, 07 May 2012 12:03:11 +0000

Q: I am a 24-year-old woman in a relationship with a 29-year-old man. We have been dating for over two years. I know he’s seeing other women behind my back but I don’t have the guts to confront him because, although he has never found out, I have cheated on him several times both physically [...]

Tags: relationships, self awareness